Let’s suppose that you are meeting someone online
and that person seem to be the match of your life,
but is living far away from you. Does it worth
to spend your time in a long distance
relationship with this person?
What if this person is really your soul mate?
You may be surprised how much a relationship can
grow if you work at it. If you know and apply
some simple rules, your relationship can turn out
to be one of the most successful and happy
relationships that ever existed.
Distance, combined with phone calls and writing,
electronically or through regular mail, can
foster an enviable intimacy which results from
learning about another’s qualities, values and
ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and
aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your
coming together much more special.
And, as if relationships weren’t complicated
enough, having them across a long distance is
extremely challenging. Just read the following
rules and try to keep them in mind and apply them:
1. The quality of a relationship is more likely
to increase if both people develop the ability to
share feelings openly with each other. Do not be
afraid to tell your partner what you really need
and want from him or her, he or she deserves to
know the truth and judge whether they can give it
to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid
canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
3. Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are
a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even
faxes. And when you do make contact, don’t just
stick to love talk, but keep each other informed
on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way
each of you is aware of how the other is thinking,
feeling and developing. Late-night talks and
thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is
most important in the long-term: your goals,
values and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner
of how much you think about and love him or her
and you will score some important points. Making
them miss you more and you’ll fill them with the
constant urge to see you. But don’t be possessive.
Being paranoid and accusing will only grow
doubts, insecurity and tension between you and
none of those will help the relationship develop
successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then
they would not want to wait forever to have you
next to her or him. As long as you both trust
each other, inform one another of your personal
lives, keep in touch, your relationship can turn
out into a happy normal relationship.
Ultimately, a fabulous relationship is your goal –
right?
