Cheating is the worst form of destruction to your
relationship or marriage; it is already
considered a betrayal of the vows they took when
they got married. The discovery of the act of
cheating by the other half can either break the
marriage or make it stronger depending on the
strength of their love for one another.
Cheating generally means that you are not fully
satisfied with your current partner or you feel
that something is missing in the relationship. If
you were completely in love and happy within your
relationship, why it might happen that your
partner have an affair?
Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but
yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed
something is different or questioned the change
of behavior in your partner.
Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter what
state your marriage is in and if you believe your
partner is having an affair now is the time to
check it out and do a little investigation just
to be sure.
Start by looking for the obvious things such as a
change in the way your partner dresses, a sudden
desire to look good, a change in work patterns,
an unusual interest in the gym, secrecy over
phone calls or emails, a loss of intimacy in your
marriage, lack of sexual interest or distance
between you that never used to exist. In the
worst case you may spy her.
A cheating wife can cause much emotional trauma,
not to mention the harm it could cause a family.
Here are some important clues that might help you
to find out if your partner is having an affair.
1.Changes in appearance and attitude. She has a
sudden preoccupation with her appearance. She is
more interested on how she dresses; go often to a
hair salon and even to gym, even if this wasn’t
her main priority before.
2.Lessened intimacy. If in the past you used to
share everything with your wife and then suddenly
she seems distanced and clams up when you try to
discuss intimate things, it could mean that she
has already distanced herself emotionally and
mentally from you. She is suddenly frigid and
loses any interest in doing anything with her
husband.
3.She’s being secretive. She’s no longer sharing
her daily events with you. She might avoid you
because she feels guilty. Don’t get paranoid and
suspicious, ask her if everything is ok and tell
her she’s been acting differently lately.
4.Disinterest in family. If your wife is no
longer excited to meet you at the door from work
there must be a problem here. Or when your
partner feels the sudden need to go out try to
find a reason to accompany her. If she comes up
with a reason that she had to go on her own push
the issue, not too much but just enough to see if
she becomes more uncomfortable.
5.Less arguing and fighting. She used to get
angry if you didn’t want to come out with her and
her friends, but now everything you do is all
right by her. Once upon a time, your every move
had to be premeditated, but now all the small
things you used to mess up aren’t enraging her.
This could be a good thing, but you wonder why
she no longer cares.
6.More phone and internet. In the last time she
speaks a lot at the telephone using a low voice
or whisper on the phone and hangs up quickly.
Maybe she set up a new e-mail account and doesn’t
tell you about it. Watch out because she might
buy a cell phone and doesn’t let you know. Ask
her if she is being true with you and if she
becomes accusatory then it is obvious that she is
cheating you.
7.She’s always late. In the past she never came
home late but now this happens more and more. Her
explanation is that she had to stay more at the
office because she has a lot of work to do. Or
she goes to the store and comes home four hours
later. This is really a reason to worry.
Cheating spouses often look and act guilty, give
a general feeling that something isn’t right.
They try and avoid meaningful conversations, keep
everything at a general and non intimate level.
