Jealousy is a whole bundle of feelings that tend
to get lumped together. It is one of the most
destructive and painful emotions in a dating
relationship. Jealousy is about fear of losing
power of control in a relationship. Jealousy is
sweet sometimes, but in moderation. Too much
jealousy can destroy a relationship, because is
driving a wedge between the two.
You have a relationship for a long time with an
amazing girl, you love her very much, but the
problem is that she is very jealous and that’s
why you are arguing a lot. You don’t want to lose
her so you have to deal with it.
But she is over reacting: she calls you in the
middle of the night to make sure that you are at
home, she is checking your mobile phone, calls
you when you go out with your friends to see
where you are and how much you stay or becomes
very angry when she sees you looking or talking
with any other girl. Also she gets suspicious and
make accusations which are not all heartfelt, it’
s teasing you a lot, accuse you of being
unfaithful even if there is no basis for her to
think this way. After a while you are enough of
all this, but you are ready to make all the
sacrifices you can to understand her and make her
stop with all these.
There are many reasons we feel jealous and though
it is a normal human emotion to feel. Jealousy
comes from insecurity. Maybe she is afraid that
you will see another girl and suddenly like her
more that you like her. So, try to not give her
many reasons to feel jealous. Avoid looking at
other girls in her presence, don’t compare her
with other girls, don’t exclude her from your
future plans and also avoid having female best
friends. If you have already a best female friend
and don’t want to lose any of them, you should
try meeting them both and making them become
friends.
No matter the reasons why she feels jealous, you
should try to understand why she feels that way.
As an example, maybe she can’t deal with the fact
that before her you had a girlfriend, your first
girlfriend with whom you stayed more than with
her, you loved her, but all is over because she
betrayed you. But your actual girlfriend doesn’t
want to accept that, and continues to be jealous
on her. Explain her that she has to accept that
we all have a past and move on because that past
isn’t going to change, and assure her that she is
the only one for you.
Maybe all of us which have a relationship for
some time and love their partner are sometimes a
little jealous. Think about it: how would you
feel to see her at school or work talking with
other guys, and comes and tells you how great
they are, wouldn’t you be jealous? Or maybe there
are some people around her that you don’t like
and don’t trust in them, and then you see that
you are jealous too. A little bit of jealousy is
healthy, but in her case, which is over reacting,
she may need some help from you to get over it.
The best thing you can do to deal with your
jealous girlfriend and to not break up with her
is to talk sincere with her and tell her how you
feel. Also be faithful to her and explain her
that you know that relationships are based on
trust so you are going to be sincere with her all
the time. Communicate sincerely and with calm and
tell her she needs to get her self – esteem in
check, because she is splinting you apart.
Having a heart to heart discussion and explain
her that all this jealous behavior will drive you
away. Often an honest exchange of feelings will
solve the problem.
The jealousy often ruined the relationship
because it push away the other partner more and
more with every fight and argue they had; after
some time the partner which is accused all the
time had enough and leave. But if you really love
her and want that your relationship continues,
make an agree both, to stop arguing so much. You
will not give her so many reasons to be jealous,
and she will try to not call you so many times a
day.
