Ideally, a relationship should be built on trust, respect and honesty. Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it with your partner might eventually ruin your relationship.
There is such a thing as being a compulsive liar. If you are in a relationship and you love your partner too much to let him or her go, then you might want to take a look at the signs and reasons behind being a compulsive liar:
This bad habit can stem from having a very low self-confidence.
There are several reasons why one would compulsively or deliberately lie.
One of which is having a low self-esteem. If you do not love yourself enough, then you can never love anyone else completely and selflessly.
Having a low self-esteem can later on lead to compulsive lying.
Take this as an example. A girl who had a humiliating childhood experience or comes from a broken family is very ashamed of her family background.
Before she finally reaches adulthood, she is at a very awkward stage where it takes very little to wound her fragile ego.
As a result, she makes up stories about his family background, and lies about herself.
Once she sees that her stories are weaving magic on other people and the stories make them like her, what is the result?
She will keep on weaving lies, and this habit she will take with her until she grows into a mature adult.
People with this complex never think that they are, nor will they ever be, as good as the people around them. In the above example, once the girl turns out into a woman and she is at a stage where she begins to have relationships, guess what will happen?
Instead of breaking the chain and finding ways to stop the habit, she will keep on lying to keep a man interested.
In the end, she will never have a stable relationship because the truth about her will come out eventually.
What if my girlfriend IS a compulsive liar?
If you are a man with a girlfriend who is a compulsive liar, there is a very high probability that you will get hurt in the process. Once you find out about the web of lies that she told, will you still find it in your heart to forgive her?
Unfortunately, having a relationship with a compulsive liar is quite harmful to other people’s feelings.
Compulsive liars cannot help lying ‘even to their loved ones’ and if you have a girlfriend with this condition and she does not want to seek help, then you are at a crossroads.
As heart-wrenching as it is to let go of somebody you love with this kind of situation, you have no choice but to let go. Otherwise, you are just letting yourself in for more heartbreak.
Compulsive liar sign #1: I am afraid to face the truth.
A compulsive liar feels that it is but natural to lie, so she is actually afraid of facing up to facts. She is always in denial. She wants to believe the lies that she made up, so much so that she sometimes believe it to be true. In fact, she wants it to be the truth.
Usually, compulsive liars develop this habit at an early age and it is carried on to their adulthood.
Compulsive liar sign #2: My lies are better than your truth.
Compulsive liars usually experience jealousy and fear towards other people.
He or she will also feel that since they are so used to lying, they can easily see through the deceit of other people. Thus, they show an air of authority, and they think that other people will never see through their lies.
This develops into a vicious cycle that is even more destructive for the person with this complex, and will surely affect the people around him or her.
Compulsive liar sign #3: I lie for my own purposes.
This statement is actually a lie by itself because compulsive liars can lie for any reason at all, even if they would not gain anything from it.
The habit of lying has become deeply indebted in their system that they cannot escape from it.
The Cure
The cure for compulsive lying depends on the person herself. If you are in a relationship with someone who is a compulsive liar, ask yourself, is she worth saving? The answer is, of course! Any person who wants to be cured of the compulsion to lie is worth saving.
The key is that she herself should want to change and do away with this habit. With some professional advise, some help from you and your loved ones, then you can take the first step to curing your girlfriend from this ‘disease’ of compulsive lying.
