In our days there are still a lot of people out
there which are single because they haven’t got a
relationship until now. One of the reasons why
this happen is because men are still confusing
about something; which is better to choose: one
night stands or long term relationships? Both
have advantages and disadvantages that’s why it
is good to think better before to jump in a
relationship or to start these ”one night stands’
‘.
People who choose to have one- night- stands are
not ready to have a relationship. They have fear
of commitment and consider that living single can
be pretty sweet; if you are unattached woman the
best of all is that you can spend as much time as
you want with your friends. That’s why they
prefer a one night stand.
Let’s face it: a one night stand is someone you
pick up in a bar, you don’t know her, take it to
your place, and have a healthy sex and leaves in
the next morning, nothing more. What do you hope
to find in the arms of someone who doesn’t care
about you? Instead, a long term relationship
between a guy and a girl is based around strong
mutual attraction on the physical, mental and
possibly even spiritual levels; it involves the
concept of love and desire to be with someone you
care very highly about for a long time.
The guys who are looking just for hooking are
afraid to enter in a relationship, afraid of
intimacy, rejection or afraid of opening up to
someone. So, the ones who never had a one night
stand until now, will want to try it as a
personal growth experience. Men love sex,
especially when there are no strings attached,
and sometimes the urge is irresistible. Sexual
desire is far more than a simple physiological
need. Experiencing a variety of people in a
sexual context teaches you a variety of sexual
techniques and ways of being.
One night stands can be fun, very sensual, and
harmless and will definitely boost your ego: but
you have to think about the consequences that may
happen. One of the bad things that you can take
sexually transmitted diseases, because you don’t
know very well the girl, you don’t know with many
guys was before you, so she might be infected. In
a one night stand the partners become incredibly
intimate at a very early stage so they become too
vulnerable to each other before they know better.
For a long term relationship you must choose
someone highly compatible in all areas, your
partner should be your companion, friend and sex
mate. For a one night stand you can choose a much
greater variety of people, including women who
are extremely sexually exciting, the decision can
be made very quickly because anyway in the next
day would matter anymore because she will leave
for all.
Relationships require making a commitment and
incurring obligations; you can’t chase after
every opportunity if you want to built a
relationship, you must have some patience. Even
though, it can be very beautiful to have a
relationship, because your partner cares of you
and will be there for you when you have problems,
will help you at need, you have always with whom
to speak your problems. The one night stand girl
will let you since the second day morning and
will never care about you.
It is at your choice how you want to live your
life, but remember that if you spend your energy
looking for casual sex, there is a little time
left over for developing a long term relationship;
the rewards of investing time in a long time
relationship are not immediate.
