Selecting a mate should be the most crucial
decision of our lives. But if it happens to fell
in love we all are forgetting about any decision.
We are like hypnotized, and even if our friends,
family and even our ration is telling us that the
person we love is not a good choice for us, we
don’t give any importance to this.
All what you know when you are deeply in love
with someone is that you want her/him to be with
you, as closer as it could be, and as longer as
it could be. What is the answer to these
expectations? You already know it: MARRIAGE!
What happen after the marriage? In honeymoon all
things go great: the hotel room is clean, the
food at the restaurant is great and even if it
isn’t, it is nobody faults. Am I right?
But after this period you two had a lot of time
together, things are starting to change. You
start to see that your husband/wife doesn’t use a
very elevate vocabulary, maybe she/he is not very
interested in making a career like you supposed
to, and eventually he/she has not to many
qualities that you have expected in your life
partner. You wake up from that state of hypnosis,
you are starting to panic and argues are starting
to be more and more frequent. It takes a good
amount of time since you can accept that you have
made a mistake. What’s next? Divorce I suppose.
What I mean to tell is that romantic love is a
poor basis for a marriage. In a long relationship,
romance, sex and passion are pretty different to
how they are in the initial states.
We should spend a huge amount of time and energy
trying to find that special someone. We should
know closer someone before falling in love, and
ONLINE DATING is giving us this possibility.
By talking online we are protected of falling in
love too deeply because the real chemistry can
happen only when we are meeting someone face to
face, when we can see his/her smile, when we can
touch his/her skin, when we can feel his/her
smell.
In these conditions we are not missing the ”
decision” part, that moment when we are following
our ration not our instincts. I am not saying
that we should not follow our intuition or
instincts but we never forget completely about
our ration. Ration is what makes a difference
between human beings and animals.
Animals are making choices too by following their
instincts only, but they are not having any bills
to pay and neither have to find a subject to
discus about while are taking the dinner. 🙂
So protect yourself from falling in love with an
inappropriate person, take the time to browse
some online profiles and you will see how many
opportunities you have. There are thousands of
singles and some of them have those qualities you
expect your future life partner to have. Just
find your perfect match!
